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Bringing Back Correspondence Hour | The Art of Manliness

Bringing Back Correspondence Hour | The Art of Manliness

<p><&excl;-- BEGIN THEIA POST SLIDER --><&sol;p>&NewLine;<p> <br &sol;>&NewLine;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<div>&NewLine;<p>Many who are reading this are old enough to remember a time when they wrote long letters to loved ones&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>Many more can remember that when email was first introduced&comma; people often composed multi-paragraph missives to their friends&comma; discussing ideas and offering in-depth updates on their lives&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>Today&comma; not only do few people write lengthy emails anymore&comma; but they frequently struggle to answer the short ones they receive&period; Even following through on typing out a 30-second reply to a text message is perpetually put off&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>This decline in answering messages might be traced to our steadily shrinking attention spans&period; In a time when we’re used to flicking through nugget-sized pieces of content and entertainment&comma; sitting down to accomplish any task can feel onerous and tedious&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>We also might think that we’re stymied in responding to communications because the digital age has made it possible for us to receive such an overwhelming amount of them&period; But we’re not as unique in this as we think&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>It’s easy to underestimate just how inundated people of the letter-writing age were with correspondence&semi; the amount of mail they received and needed to reply to was sometimes voluminous&period; Thomas Jefferson described his schedule as dominated by answering letters&semi; devoting hours to it each day&comma; he called it the burden of his life and once remarked that correspondence alone was enough to occupy him full-time&period; The journalist H&period;L&period; Mencken&comma; who responded to every letter he received&comma; penned over 100&comma;000 of them during his lifetime&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>Of course&comma; even if we’re not more beset with correspondence than previous generations&comma; it may <em>feel<&sol;em> that way since&comma; unlike our predecessors&comma; who only got mail&comma; at most&comma; a few times a day&comma; we receive communications during every waking hour &lpar;and sometimes when we sleep&rpar;&period; Add that feeling of inundation to our shorter attention spans&comma; and that likely does explain part of the reason many people struggle to stay on top of their messages and get back to people&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>But there’s another factor at play as well&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>We moderns tend to think of responding to emails and texts as ancillary — something to tackle on an ad hoc basis&semi; something to get to in the cracks of time&comma; between primary tasks&comma; when the mood strikes&period; But in the past&comma; answering correspondence was seen as a fundamental social obligation — a task that was enshrined as a set part of one’s daily routine&period; People accepted that it was a basic part of life and would take up a significant chunk of their time&period; They didn’t treat it as an occasional chore&comma; but a fixed block in their schedule&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>For example&comma; Charles Darwin answered every missive he received&comma; even from cranks&semi; leaving a letter unanswered weighed on his mind&period; To stay on top of the piles of mail he received&comma; Darwin engaged in &OpenCurlyDoubleQuote;letters time” at two intervals during his day&period; After a tightly managed 90-minute work session first thing in the morning&comma; he would come into the drawing room at 9&colon;30 a&period;m&period; and open and read the morning’s post with his family until about 10&colon;30 a&period;m&period; Darwin would read his own mail&comma; and his wife would read the family’s letters out loud&period; After lunch&comma; he would sit in a large chair by the fireplace&comma; with a board across his lap that functioned as a desk&comma; and respond to the letters for an hour or two&period;  <&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>Many eminent figures&comma; who often received satchel loads of mail&comma; placed letter-answering at the end of their daily routines&period; Seeing it as a necessary but less mentally taxing task&comma; men like Albert Einstein&comma; Carl Jung&comma; Richard Strauss&comma; Igor Stravinsky&comma; and W&period;B&period; Yeats&comma; among others&comma; replied to their mail in the afternoon&comma; after their more creative and cognitively-demanding work had been completed&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>Some really made it the capstone of their day&period; Both Jefferson and John Adams not only engaged in letter-writing sessions in the morning&comma; but in the evening as well&period; The diarist Samuel Pepys wound down for bed by penning letters at 12&colon;00 a&period;m&period; Louis Armstrong would answer his mail late at night after his shows&comma; while dining on takeout Chinese &lpar;his second favorite food after red beans and rice&rpar;&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>Whenever they did it&comma; answering their mail was something that many men used to set aside dedicated time for each day&period; We ought to consider doing likewise — reviving what might be called the &OpenCurlyDoubleQuote;correspondence hour”&colon; a recurring time in your daily routine in which you respond to all texts and emails &lpar;that truly need a response — not every one does&rpar;&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>Because in our current age&comma; we can receive messages at any time&comma; day or night&comma; this creates the feeling that they should be answered in a similarly rolling and sporadic fashion&period; But&comma; except for emails and texts that are more urgent in nature&comma; it’s possible to consolidate your responding into a single block of time&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>The field-tested practice of answering communications at the end of your day&comma; once your more important work is finished&comma; can be a wise one&period; But schedule your own correspondence hour for whatever time works for you&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>Such batching will free up mental bandwidth&period; Constantly pivoting from one task&comma; to popping off a message&comma; to returning to the task&comma; frazzles your brain&period; It will also likely increase your effectiveness in replying to all your messages&comma; so your correspondents won’t be left hanging and can get on with their work and plans&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>Even though Jefferson sometimes felt consumed by answering letters — he responded even to those of ordinary citizens&comma; whether from schoolboys seeking advice or farmers looking for guidance — he saw the act as a civic duty&comma; almost a republican obligation&period; While staying on top of one’s messages may not quite rise to that level for the non-presidents among us&comma; it’s still a worthy social civility&period; <a href&equals;"https&colon;&sol;&sol;www&period;artofmanliness&period;com&sol;character&sol;behavior&sol;25-ways-to-be-a-class-act&sol;">It’s a way to become a class act<&sol;a> — and instituting a correspondence hour can get you there&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<&sol;div>&NewLine;<p><br &sol;>&NewLine;<br &sol;><a href&equals;"https&colon;&sol;&sol;www&period;artofmanliness&period;com&sol;character&sol;habits&sol;bringing-back-correspodence-hour&sol;">Source link <&sol;a><&sol;p>&NewLine;<p><&excl;-- END THEIA POST SLIDER --><&sol;p>&NewLine;

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